Ever since you've welcomed your little one into this world, your lack of interest in sex has become a concern. Don't worry it is perfectly normal for most women to not feel 'getting into action' for three or more months. There are already lots of adjustments on the cards and sex is hardly on the agenda for new moms.
There are several factors contributing to this lack of interest in sex after pregnancy.
You've been taking care of the newborn which is a demanding job round the clock.
Sex does not even feature in your to-do list which is already loaded with feeding, bathing, changing diapers and singing lullabies to the baby. Whatever breaks you get in between goes into taking some much-needed rest or sleep.
Body goes through a lot of turmoil during labour and delivery.
There are hormonal changes going inside your body which can give pendulum-like mood swings. Your body needs time to recover. When women are breastfeeding, lesser amount of oestrogen is secreted to prevent chances of getting pregnant again. Low estrogen levels are associated with decreased libido.
Many new mothers find themselves not looking physically attractive.
With all the post pregnancy flab it is natural to feel that they do not look sexy and desirable to their husband. This may be one of the reasons why women avoid sexual encounters because it makes them self-conscious of their out-of-shape bodies.
Then, there is the fear of becoming pregnant again. Decrease in libido is nature's way of evading another pregnancy when a woman is rearing and breastfeeding her newborn because it will be a burden on their already recuperating body.
Resuming the desired sex life after child-birth
It may take time - maybe weeks or months so don't rush things. If your friend claims to get back to her pre-pregnancy sex life within six weeks of delivery, don't feel pressurized to match it. Let your body tune in to the new life. Usually, doctors recommend waiting until the six-week check but many women may not feel ready till their baby is a year old.
However, you must wait till postpartum bleeding stops because your uterus is healing and there is a risk of infection. If you've had a C-section, then avoid pressure on stitched area because it may hurt. Start gently and slowly.
It is best to talk to your partner about your fears, apprehensions and concerns regarding sex after pregnancy. Your partner is sure to understand and help. Remember you are in it together. Express your love for them even though you don't feel up to the game. If you are still concerned, consult a gynaecologist on how to resume your sex life after child-birth.
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