Many men find themselves reaching climax sooner than their partners want. For treating premature ejaculation, there can be a lot of different options to consider. Edging can be used as a common method that can help you last longer in bed or when playing with yourself. You can start this training regimen when you're home alone with some time on your hands to masturbate or with your partner. Sex educator at Hisblue, Dr. William Henderson, calls the edging technique as "effective treatment for lasting longer." "If edging doesn't work for you, get a dose of Dapoxetine prescribed from your doctor. Initially formulated as an antidepressant, it works wonders for men with PE", he adds on.
What Do You Mean by The Edge?
It means reaching up to what's called "ejaculatory inevitability"—the orgasmic point of no return—then stepping down for a minute before restarting the play. Being the male partner, it's likely that you so far know what the point of no return feels like. The main goal of edging is to alter our sexual feedback. Although stronger and deeper orgasms as side effects seem nice to you, it's not necessarily the primary reason why most men edge. Ejaculatory inevitability refers to that point in the course of the lead-up to ejaculation in which contractions in the ductus deferens occur and therefore the prostate moves semen out of the tubes where it is usually stored and into the urethra.
Once there, ejaculation follows because of the rhythmic contractions of pelvic muscles—about every 0.8 seconds—release semen in waves from your penis. It can be a bit frustrating for you at first, but once you get practiced with it, you might feel the enhancement in your sexual pleasure and performance. Edging delays your orgasm — it may also make it more intense — but it can be a tedious practice if your partner isn't aware of your intentions. Be sure to discuss this before you edge during sexual intercourse. The key to becoming good at edging and mastering control after your orgasm in any situation involves knowing what the instant just before that moment feels like. Rather than watching porn, concentrate on the sensations you are feeling in your body. After you reach the tipping point, wrest control over the just about irresistible yearning to spill.
What is Premature Ejaculation?
There is no set time when a man should ejaculate during sex, but if you ejaculate and lose your erection much sooner than expected by your partner, you and your partner may observe that there's not enough time to enjoy sexual pleasure. Between 30% to 40% of men have it at some time in their life. It can be a bit frustrating and even embarrassing to both the partners. Men having low levels of serotonin in their brains take a shorter time to ejaculate. Other reasons may include stress, depression, anxiety, guilt, lack of confidence, negative ideas about sex, unusual hormone levels, etc. In men suffering from erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation can also be observed. Also, concern regarding sexual performance may produce a phenomenon of rushing to ejaculate. It can be a vigorous habit to get rid of.
How to Get Going on The Edge on Your Own?
Step 1: Time Block
Save at least 30 minutes from the day when nobody is around to disturb you. Go to bed and start masturbating as you usually do. Maintain a firm grip and be steady. Build up the stimulation gradually.
Step 2: Recognize
When you get down to recognize any signs of reaching the climax, stop immediately. It may feel frustrating in the beginning. As practicing or getting experienced, you can push the time of stopping to the very edge.
Step 3: Hold
Hold your masturbation until the feeling to spill out goes away. Don't resume masturbation, even if you feel a minute decrease in firmness of the erection.
Step 4: Next Round
Now you can begin again. It will help prevent you from reaching your orgasm immediately. Repeat these steps at least 4-5 times until you reach your orgasm.
Step 5: Mastery
After being used to the edging technique, you might feel a slight increase in your period between your erection and ejaculation. You can also use lubes or condoms coated with benzocaine to ease your edging technique.
How to Use Edging with A Partner?
Step 1: Communicate
Make your partner comfortable and try to communicate about the method during sex. Make sure she is an active participant too.
Step 2: Teamwork
Build up the foreplay slow and steady and don't be on the aggressive side as it may cause you to reach your end early. So go easy. Let your partner know when you are about to spill and let the play stop for a moment.
Step 3: Start Slow
Sex educators say that foreplay is the best method to know your partner. So, don't straightaway jump to intercourse. Let your partner build up the levels of the play.
Step 4: Cool Down
Hold your emotions until the feeling to ejaculate goes away completely. This may help you last a couple more minutes. Also, don't expect much on the first try. Things take time, and this will too, as this is a learning process. Also, you should be aware of your partner's needs. So, when the play stops, hand or mouth can be used for stimulation of other parts.
Step 5: Final Stretch You can do various things during the edging method. You can entirely pull out your penis or simply keep inside and stop thrusting. Some men prefer to continue with slow thrusting. Also, make it adventurous rather than just a job.
Why Should You Want Your Orgasm to Be Delayed?
Not everyone restricts sex to penis-in-vagina intercourse only. This is a hetero-normative view of sex. You can't neglect the fact that sex is a fantastic tool to get people out of their heads and into their bodies. It applies to moments that build up and leads to orgasm. Dr. William also states the fact that the focus is not on the orgasm, but pleasure 'in' the moment."
Some Things That Can Help You to Edge Strongly:
Consider taking Medication
Poxet 60 mg is a drug that treats premature ejaculation. It allows you to delay your ejaculation a minimum of 3-4 times. It is considered a much faster method compared to those of antidepressants. It increases the level of the natural chemical, serotonin in the brain which sends the nervous system and delays the nerve sensation that results in ejaculation. A study done in 2007 showed that Sildenafil is a secure and effective way to deal with premature ejaculation, while another research published in early 2000 found that Sildenafil reduced the biological time by a minimum of 11 minutes for men who were around 32 years old or above. Dapoxetine is also a good option worth trying. It is readily absorbed and eliminated from your body, so it is also considered safe for regular use.
Numbing agents
4 to 5 percent benzocaine is a numbing agent that reduces penis sensitivity and gives you more time till you get a feeling to ejaculate. Many condoms like Durex or Trojan offer condoms loaded with benzocaine that temporarily desensitizes your penis.
Squeezing Method
Also, one of the most effective ways is the "squeeze technique" in which the man's partner lends a hand to delay ejaculation and prolong the length of sexual intercourse. You should place the thumb, index, and middle fingers around the tip of his penis, and squeeze immediately before you reach ejaculatory inevitability and keep squeezing until that feeling had subsided and your body gets relaxed, before slowly releasing the pressure.
Kegel exercises
You can treat premature ejaculation by strengthening your pelvic floor muscles. You can attain this by stopping in between two or three times when you urinate. Try to do at least 10 to 20 repetitions per day. You will feel the changes after about 6 weeks. Remedies like acupuncture and massage can also be done along with traditional treatments.
Consult a Therapist
Although the above-mentioned methods are a good try, still, the best one is to talk it out. It may look expensive to you at first, but it is the most efficient way so you can have a healthy and entertaining sex life. It may take some time for your therapist to find the right treatment, but don't give up early. Also, keep your therapist updated about the changes you observe.
In Summary
The maximum of times the problem lies in the psychology rather than your physiology. Once you get to know where your edge lies, you can drive around with no fear of getting tip over. Also, learn about the changes and adapt to them. Make your partner is an active participant and be sure to talk about it beforehand or he/she will get bored with it eventually. You can also book for a second-round together! Don't worry if your erection subsides, there's nearly always another one right behind it. In short, it's fun and may sometimes lead to the enhancement of sexual intimacy altogether. Edging is meant for a safe and likely rousing way to prolong your orgasm.
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